My reflection…

January 6, 2007


Filed under: IIIT and me — Deepti @ 11:48 am

Suprised that it has been more than one and a half years that I’ve been in IIIT,but still the caption says ONE year in IIIT..Well I strongly feel that its just one year for me in IIIT.Let me tell you why…

Thanks to my eccentric professors at my college in my Intermediate who were always after me to study because they felt,if I would put a little effort(which I never did when I was in my Intermediate,I swear!!!),I can really perform well..Well there was a healthy competition and that brought the best out of me and I secured fairly good rank in AIEEE,good enough to get into IIIT.
My first sem..Well-o-well.. I continued to be the same as i was in my Intermediate..I was confined to my own world,went home after every two days..I spoke very less and never got involved into any serious relationship with friends.I was very candid.I still remember the first FSIS(Faculty and Student Meeting ) we had on the first week.Professor Sangal asked all of us if we had any problems regarding the HEALTHY INTERACTION.I immediately got up and told him that I am liking this place and the HI but the timings seem to be very odd.Being a “Early to bed and early to rise ” kind of person,staying awake till three in the night and then getting back to PT at 6:30 seemed tough for me and to infact to every body in the hostel .I never knew what was awaiting me.I received a good deal of chidings from my seniors.This seemed confusing to me first.I did not understand why I was being scolded for telling the truth.Well that episode left me with getting one thing into my mind and that is “you cannot be candid before every person..”Except for this episode,there hasn’t been anything interesting and thats the reason I dont feel like including those 6 months into the time I’ve spent in IIIT..
At the end of my first semester,I became close to few of the girls and loved making friends and freaking out with them and enjoying with them watching movies,going out for shopping etc..All these were completely new to me and turned me on.I started loving the place..The habit of running home after every two days vanished and I started going home only once in a week….Then my friends circle started expanding and I fell in love with the company instantly..I never luked at life seriously..They made me do so..I shared a great rapport with all my frineds I was proud of my new friends and was happy to find such a great company soo soon.. As I became closer to my friends,I was introduced with the problems which exist between relationships..For the first time,I saw friends getting apart because of ego problems or what they called then PRIORITY PROBLEMS..I was new to every word to which I was introduced..Priority???Do you rank your friends in an order of priority????I never knew that…I have some of the best friends of my life whom I know since my schooling and everyone was and is equally important to me..I never ranked them in any order nor did they…We don’t at all have this CONCEPT of PRIORITY among us..Those were the best times I’ve ever had.Iam in touch with everyone of them and we are the same even now,though we meet less frequently but we DO meet…I treasure every moment i’ve spent with them..

As I got more and more into these cob-web of relationships,many things dawned to me.For the first time,I have seen people getting possessive and selfish about their relationships,which according to me is quite wrong.I know every single soul here would differ with me in this aspect,but what I feel is if you truly trust a person,you would never get possessive.People need their space no matter how much ever close they are.For the first time,I have seen people slipping quitely from the situations arose because of their mistakes,people who boasted that they would always be supporting others,maintaining silence when relationships were tearing apart in front of their very eyes…Every thing hit me hard and brought me out of my aptly termed FANTASY WORLD–a world where every thing happens as you want them to happen,a world where your friends are like angels,a world where there is no place for selfishness and possessiveness…I couldn’t believe people can be they way they were.It was the time when I had this feeling that every single person at this place is an opportunist,they say they are possesive but are infact selfish to the core and dont bother even if they world gets destroyed because of them.
Of-late I have realised with the help of some of my best friends the fact that everybody here is not bad.They are very good people.Its just that there is an element of selfishness which is in their heart which restrains them from doing what is right.Thanks to this early realisation and I started making many friends and I changed myself from an introvert to an extrovert.Though the bitter fact always remains that I have lost few of my friends,there is another brighter fact that I gained more than two dozen friends(Not a bad bargain what say!!! 😀 ).This is a great place to live in and guies I swear it would change every person who would enter this place..
I want to thank all my friends for introducing me to real life and helping me coming out of my FANTASY WORLD,though I was made to realise this fact in a very harsh manner…No regrets ofcourse….Now I’ve become very independent and I realise my strong and weak points This might sound really philosophical to you,but everybody down their heart would love to do this..Its been a roller-coaster ride for me.

My one year at IIIT has been very dramatic .Let me see what more is in store for me in the coming two and a half years..



  1. looks like everyone’s chnaged their outlook 2ward frenz after joinin a coll.. its not exclusive 2 ya buddy.. don worry. such a passing phase will be recollected by us in the future and laughed at. good that u’r recordin it.
    as for me, the best mantra i’ve found is not 2 av ne expectations from frenz.. works wonders 🙂

    Comment by Karan — January 6, 2007 @ 12:54 pm

  2. well i completely agree with Karan’s theory and infact that is one of mine too…
    god post

    Comment by Shrikant — January 6, 2007 @ 1:49 pm

  3. good post 😛

    Comment by Shrikant — January 6, 2007 @ 2:03 pm

  4. Good Post!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Comment by prashasti — January 6, 2007 @ 3:41 pm

  5. All i can say is forget abt the past and try to learn frm ur mistakes .. aur haan Good post!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Comment by marutiborker — January 6, 2007 @ 4:19 pm

  6. Hey deepti everybody has learned many diff things abt friends..this one and half yr has changed eveybody’s outlook and there’s nothing wrong cause this is the first time you are steppin out of ur home enviorn and things are destined to change and ya whether u believe it or not..there are always gonna be priorities in ur life..whether you like it or not ..on my part i am surprised that you got introduced to it so late….
    In the end would just like to say that try to be cheerful in the face of adversities(however difficult it might be) coz this is the only way to get out of it…nobody is gonna b helpful after a limit to you.. in the end you would have to steer your boat yourselves out of trouble so just dnt be too much dependent on friends though its ver easy to be so..
    Now i think this post is turning to be a post in itself so i shud stop writing now…

    Comment by Himank — January 6, 2007 @ 11:04 pm

  7. @himank jahaan dekho wahin par bloggin shuru that comment was nearly a post 😀

    Comment by Maruti — January 7, 2007 @ 6:08 pm

  8. hey u have expressed ur feelings beautifully .. comendable job..
    I agree wid himank…
    don’t want to write another post…
    I agree wid Maroo… just that I thnk its very difficult to exempt urself from the vicious circle of expectations and priorties …

    Comment by CHAND — January 11, 2007 @ 3:25 pm

  9. ur posts r really impressive!

    bottom line – ur blog is damn kool , , ,keep it goin!

    Comment by srujan — January 14, 2007 @ 6:13 am

  10. hey deepti ….lifes never a fantasy world as u imagined …. and expectin people to be selfless and non possessive itself is a wrong notion … well experience teaches many things in life and so did ur one year to u too….. well i too had many incidents to cherish and some that made me feel bad …. but u know its all part of life …. college life is the best one can ever get … so better make use of it to the best …. and follow the principle … LITE RA …. trust me it works fine … 😉 😉 ….

    Comment by varun kumar — January 15, 2007 @ 5:22 pm

  11. hmm ….
    philosophy …. my favorite subject …. he he 😀
    I used to think the same way as you thought earlier … selfishness and opportunists all around
    and then realized not that bad a place .
    World still has wonderful souls 😉 ….
    People stop processing their own thoughts ….. Its really nice to see that someone is still doing it .
    Good going Deepti …
    Just dont stop thinking .

    Comment by harsh — January 16, 2007 @ 5:34 pm

  12. deeps…u hve penned down ur feelings nicely..but i very much agree with varun kumar…thinking tht ppl can be selfless is a wrong idea….(hope m free to tell u wht i felt abt ur post)..zindagi me log selfless hon ye ho hi nai some point or other one has to be selfish…n at times its d circumstnces tht make ppl selfish..wo khud doshi nahi hotein…its very much in human nature…but anyway..good to see ki tuney kuch seekha hai apne expernces se..
    all the best in life..
    take care.

    Comment by Adi... — January 17, 2007 @ 10:34 am

  13. hmmmm……abaa deepu y u think s0000 much ..
    i said u frm our schooling days tht dont gv any person so much importance tht his/her personality or presence interferes ur life ….4 the youth “LITE LE” thts the gr88 word n it works try this out whenever u feel down…lol..but madom atlast experience is the name which we gv 2 all our mistakes n its gud if we learn frm it n pick up ur life frm thr….so rock on buddy …i know u r a cute bubbly angel may allah make u successful in whtever u do…tc

    Comment by Shanawaz — January 21, 2007 @ 5:41 am

  14. Nice Template..

    Comment by Mr.Unknown — January 22, 2007 @ 5:09 am

  15. it was like reading chetan bhagats five point someone(as in very insight ful into the crazy world of friends and relationships using iiit as a setup)

    Comment by prajwal — January 23, 2007 @ 3:18 pm

  16. very interesting, but I don’t agree with you

    Comment by Idetrorce — December 15, 2007 @ 5:12 pm

  17. very interesting. i’m adding in RSS Reader

    Comment by Melina — December 20, 2007 @ 6:11 pm

  18. Its tough to spend 4 yrs here.. I just came not even 1 month ago and I am terribly bored..(don’t know how am I going to spend next 3 months)..

    anyways.. all the best for rest of ur days.. 😉

    Comment by rav — February 19, 2008 @ 3:24 pm

  19. seen ur post a few days back … couldn’t even gather enough courage to read such a large post … i’ll probably die if i read that much text at a time … but after the seeing the praise for the post in comments, finally made my mind to read it…
    pretty good content … keep up !!!

    Comment by Kulbir Saini — February 19, 2008 @ 11:52 pm

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